People want to get married and stay married. According to a study by Family Service of America, more than 70% of adult Americans believe that “marriage is a long-lasting dedication.”

Surprisingly, even 81% of separated and separated Americans still think marital relationship ought to be for life. Yet, over half of marriages end in divorce.

Frequently, even those couples looking for professional assistance do not receive the tools they need. As divorce became more socially accepted in the 1970’s and 1980’s, many therapists actual assist in marriage suicide by viewing divorce as a life style choice or as a pathway to personal growth.

Though well meaning, too often they advise customers to get a divorce specifying without complete understanding of the huge effects of divorce. At best, they take a “marital relationship neutral” attitude of “what ever makes you happy,” without knowledge of the present research on joy.

Research studies on divorce and happiness demonstrate that numerous divorced persons are in fact less pleased five years after the divorce.

Couples you worked through their issues and avoided divorce tend to have greater levels of happiness after 5 years.

Why do not couples work harder to make their marriages work?

Because they don’t have the tools.